I got a wedding dress!
I don’t think it is the very first thing you are supposed to finalize, but my mom seemed really excited about doing it right away. And it was much more fun and easier than I thought!
My mom bought it for me, which wasn’t a surprise. It seems really weird to have my parents be paying for things for me at this stage in our lives. I could tell she would have been insulted if I insisted on paying.
Oh, I bought the second dress I tried on! Of course, I didn’t buy it on the spot, and we went to a few other places and tried on many many more. But we came back later and bought it.
It wasn’t at all the style I expected to buy, but both my sisters said “that is exactly the style I thought you’d buy!”. I assumed I’d get something very simple from the line of “beach/destination” wedding dresses. I tried a few on and they fell flat. I tried on some designer gowns (that we’d never have bought anyway), I tried on some others I liked. But we kept coming back to this one!
I could have spent weeks and weeks searching for “the perfect gown” and part of me wonders if I should have. Most things I do, I’m very analytical and like to consider every option. I. It feels so quick, which isn’t like me! But I’m also glad I found something I loved so quickly!
As for personal finance: The dress wasn’t cheap. It was designed by the owner of the local bridal shop, and it was marked at $1200 (!). There was some sort of “sale” on his designs, so it ended up being $900. I bought it in a state with no sales tax (woo hoo), so that was the total bill. My mom paid $450 as a deposit.
If it were all me, I honestly don’t know if I would have spent $900. I’m not sure what to think about that. But I”m glad I have the dress, and I’m glad it was so easy, and I just hope everything else is as easy (like… finding a site for a casual reception).
I tried to talk to my mom about the budget, and they are just going to pay for things as they come. I made it clear that I expect to contribute a good portion, but she made it clear that they wanted to pay for quite a bit as well. If I had it in town, they’d probably pay for everything (it would be less expensive). I was hoping they’d just state a lump sum number, or specific things to pay for, but… I guess we’ll have to wing it? (Or, I’ll secretly do a budget anyway!)