Our friends and family have been exceptionally great about not “suggesting” that we start our family, even though we’ve been married over 2 years now. But lately, that has started to change. I generally tell people we are probably waiting at least another year and I’ll give my reasons… then someone will chime in with “you can’t wait until you are completely ready – you’ll never get there!”
I understand the sentiment. Who is EVER ready to create a new human from scratch then raise them into adulthood? Who is EVER ready to spend the money on diapers and tiny clothes and child care? And that’s just the beginning!
We don’t plan on waiting until we are fully ready, but we certainly can be more ready than this! We are about to embark on a year of quasi-long distance marriage! Yes, my husband is about to get a higher paying job, but he’s still going to make a good 40% less than me. In one short year, we should know where we are going to live for the next 7+ years. His salary should exceed mine. While we theoretically could handle a pregnancy now (if we HAD to), can’t we all agree that it probably makes sense to wait until my husband and I are in a more normal living situation? I mean, who would run to the store and get the obligatory pregnancy ice cream? Me? By myself?
Financially, I think we are well prepared enough. We certainly could have more, but we are better off than a lot of people who successfully provide for their offspring. I think we can figure out how to make this pat work. I’m much less worried about this part than the whole logistical part.
If you are married, how close are you to being ready? Have you heard others tell you that you can’t wait until you are ready?