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Financially Independent

January 16, 2008

I had three really close girl friends in high school. My senior year their was a fourth girl we spent a lot of time with as well. Of the five of us, I’m the ONLY ONE who is not currently married. I’m twenty-five, and the rest of them are about the same. Most have been married about a year, but one girl has been married almost 4 years already.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 3.5 years, and it isn’t a real secret to many people that I had hoped to be engaged quite awhile ago. I’m not exactly “pushing for it” at this point (does that really work anyway?) but based on conversations we had in our relationship, I honestly thought it would have happened awhile ago. However, plans adjusted, and it seems like it’ll happen eventually, but there isn’t a rush right now. People around here don’t always understand that. They think at 25, I’m a candidate for becoming an old maid. I’m willing to wait, at least for now. There certainly may come a time when waiting isn’t the right thing for me anymore, but I don’t know when that time is.

Oh, wait, is this personal finance blog? What is my point?

As much as I thought getting married ASAP would be ideal, there is something to be said for starting off a career on your own. I enjoy reading other young female bloggers, especially those who are also unmarried, and thinking how just a couple generations ago our lives would have been unthinkable. Though I admit I’ve had the emotional support of a relationship, I do rent my own apartment, pay my own bills, and really came into my own financially in a way that I simply wouldn’t have had I been legally tied to another person. I’m sure we would have figured this stuff out together, but the whole financially independent thing is something I’m a little proud of myself for accomplishing. Independence in general is something I’m proud of.

Trent over at the The Simple Dollar recently wrote about how having a family and kids has totally changed his priorities in life. Being unmarried (when most of the people I know are married) has allowed me to keep my choices strictly my own. I’m not saying that I need to hold onto that forever, but I might as well enjoy this independence while I have it.

(Oh, and even though I’m all about frugality and practical purchases, I still want a diamond engagement ring. I simply can’t help it. Do you agree?)

2 Comments leave one →
  1. English Major permalink
    January 17, 2008 5:24 pm

    I’m anti-diamond, really because of the human rights abuses that the diamond industry perpetuates. Besides, I think it’s much prettier and more original to have a colored gem in a fabulous setting as an engagement ring. You get more for the money, too, because you don’t pay the “here’s a sucker who wants to buy an engagement ring!” markup.

    I’m hoping for a sizeable sapphire, myself.

  2. June 16, 2010 10:03 am

    It’s good to know women are treated like old maids if unmarried in the Midwest too! I’m in TN, and I’ll never forget going to church one morning as a 19 y/o, holding one of the church congregants babies and my great aunt coming up to me and saying, “Don’t you think it’s about time you have one of these?” She looked at me like I was 119. I was a TEENAGER! Good Lord.

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