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Pillow fight!

October 19, 2009

At some point in the past year (or three?) I purchased 2 pillows for myself, likely for about $15 each on sale.  When T and I moved in together, I kept them and he brought his own pillows.   He’s been trying to steal one (or both) of mine ever since.

After months of playful battles  (and some all out war –while dead asleep T violently shifted in bed and landed his cheekbone on my sleeping head.  I’m convinced it was pillow related.),  he insisted he couldn’t sleep another night on his crappy pillows.  “I used to have a nice fluffy one from IKEA!  Where did that one go?  Maybe you stole it!”  I took his “crappy” pillow and showed him the faded IKEA tag.  Oh.

We found ourselves at Macy’s, squeezing the entire stock of pillows.  I was leaning towards a decent synthetic fill ($20), while he thought the down surround ones were nice ($30).  There was so little down that I preferred synthetic.  We both liked the fancy down pillows best, but $60 for a pillow?  Really?

And…  Here it goes.  We bought them.  Two pillows, $55 each after some couponing and tax.  Regular price (or rather “Insane Price”) of $120, it still didn’t feel anything like a bargain.  Even as Macy’s top rated pillow,  it felt insane.  It still feels insane. Who am I?!?!

I can justify it of course — what price can you put on a good nights sleep?!  A once every 5+ year expense!  But it isn’t about the ability to justify it.  I can justify anything if I really want.

It’s a splurge.   Which is ok.   But so many splurges have made their way into my life over the past few months that it is confusing me.     That doesn’t mean I’m not saving.  I am.  Quite a lot, actually.  But the ability to splurge on things, and still save is sort of mystifying.    My brain can’t handle it.  I can’t properly evaluate whether these splurges are worth the price.  If a pillow caused me to go into debt, obviously not.  But what if I siphon $50 that would have gone to the Travel Fund (which still gets plenty) instead?  What harm is there in that?

Maybe I need a break from splurges to reset my thinking.  What do you think?  It seems a lot of pf bloggers have had many splurges over the summer/fall.  (I’m not pointing fingers, but if you felt slightly guilty after reading that sentence — it’s you!)

Yes, I’m making a huge deal out of nothing too major– $55 is not the end of the world (but for a pillow?!).  This is the culmination of a lot of thoughts I’ve been mulling over lately, somewhat prompted by oilandgarlic‘s comments and posts about pf bloggers making her want to spend.  (Did this make you want to buy a new pillow?)  I’m doing a lot of atypical spending (this month alone:  birthday party, concert tickets, pillow, bootcamp, and more), and it is freaking me out a bit.  Splurging is becoming typical?

November will be a quiet month.  Except that trip to Vegas….  Eeeep!

On the other hand… We slept GREAT last night.

13 Comments leave one →
  1. October 19, 2009 6:24 am

    Oh man I think I need a fancy pillow too. We are holding off getting a new mattress until after the wedding but I find myself tossing and turning and could use something to make me sleep better. Were you able to fall asleep more easily with the new pillow?

  2. October 19, 2009 7:21 am

    My pillows were fine before, but out of kindness to T, we each got 1 new ones and I gave him one of my old ones. He said it made a huge difference. As far as me, I thought it was nice, but not a huge difference. 🙂

    And it is one of those things I would be too embarrassed to register for. If I wouldn’t buy a $55 pillow for myself, how on earth could I feel right asking someone to buy it for me?!

  3. October 19, 2009 8:40 am

    Have you notice that you spent more now that your man is there. I am the frugal one and my bf is the spendthrift… and its leads to me spending more money as well!

    How have you dealt with this?

  4. October 19, 2009 8:57 am

    I think living together causes things like this to happen. I mean, you would have been perfectly content with YOUR pillows if he hadn’t been trying to steal them.

    Relationships cause lots of little expenses like this. I find myself buying HIS Diet Pepsi at the supermarket that I wouldn’t buy, because I’m shopping for cake ingredients and he just has the one item – so it feels stupid not to buy his soda. But things like that add up over time. And eventually they just become part of the “cost of the relationship”. Buying their food, their soda, their pillows, ect. And I’m sure that he has had to do similar things for you.

    Just make sure that you don’t resent the little expenses or at the very least try to minimize them when possible if they bother you. =)

  5. October 19, 2009 9:47 am

    I have most definitely been splurging lately – maybe it was a summertime thing or maybe I got sick of sticking to a budget but it all came to a head when I went fall shopping last weekend and spent well over $200.

    I’m definitely tightening down my belt a little bit, especially with the holidays coming.

    All of us bloggers should get together and do some sort of challenge to get back on course – what do you think?

  6. October 19, 2009 9:49 am

    we are in the midst of mattress, bedding and pillow shopping now that the wedding is over and we have some wedding money to spend. i will take your story with me as we go to macy’s and check out all the pillows!

  7. October 19, 2009 10:40 am

    I have never bought a pillow that cost more than $15 but whenever I do go shopping for pillows, I ALWAYS want the most expensive one there. They just feel sooooo nice and soooo comfy and I WANT THEM DO BAD. But I really just cannot justify spending that amount of money ($50+) on a pillow. Not while I’m earning such a crappy salary, anyway. Maybe my opinion will change when my income increases. It usually does! 😛

  8. October 19, 2009 12:19 pm

    My boyfriend and I are in desperate need of new pillows! I still have my down pillows from when I moved out here, so I’ve given him one, but they’re getting to the point where it’s affecting my sleep… I just can’t get comfortable, and I’ll wake up with my neck and back hurting. Not good!

    I got mine at Bed Bath and Beyond for about 20 each. I would pay more, because it’s worth it, it’s just that initial investment kind of makes me cringe.

  9. October 19, 2009 12:29 pm

    We’ve spending a lot more than usual lately, it’s a testament to how much we save each month that we can afford a few hundred extra in spending without going into debt. But still, I can’t keep it up and make our goals.

    As for pillows, until recently I still had some that I used as a kid! Seriously these pillows were ancient. I only buy cheap ones though, with dogs there is no sense in buying nice ones. They are inevitably going to be chewed on, puked on and eventually disemboweled by a bored canine. Is there that much difference, I bet I’d still have a crappy night sleep cause I’m up every hour rearranging dogs so I have some room on the bed.

  10. October 19, 2009 4:43 pm

    I love a good pillow. I still have my two pillows from 15 years ago, but I also added a nice Ikea/foam pillow to the collection for my old-person neck problems.

    My question is: how much would you spend on a mattress?

  11. October 19, 2009 9:55 pm

    I splurged a couple of years ago and bought a latex pillow for $100. I just use that and I have never needed to replace it and it should last for years yet. I was buying pillows so often before that, I think I have broken even by now and now the purchase is saving me money!

  12. October 21, 2009 8:31 pm

    Chad has been complaining about his pillow for months now, and I keep urging him to go for a good one – you spend 1/3rd of your life in bed! It’s worth it to be comfortable.

    Oddly, I prefer really old, flat pillows for sleeping. When I was younger, I used to sleep without a pillow at all – I read The Light In The Forest where the kid makes fun of how people’s necks tilt forward, and stopped using one. Weird thing to do then, and now it’s just more comfortable.


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