Less than three months to go!
While the wedding has been a big focus of ours the past couple weeks, there isn’t a lot that I feel like blogging about. We’ve been making decisions, spending money, and pushing on. I don’t especially like discussing my wedding plans with people I’m not close to. I hate answering questions and I always feel judged that what we wanted wasn’t the typical church + banquet + dance party.
Person: “Where is the wedding?”
Me: [explains detail of location, which is an outdoor public area. Yes really.]
Person: “Oh, is your family from here?”
Me: “No — but it’s just going to be a small thing.”
Person: “Oh, a lame/cheap wedding. I get it.” [This is what I imagine is said in their head.]
If I’m feeling defensive, I chime in with how we are having a big reception back in the Midwest.
I was telling T that I didn’t want to talk to my coworkers about my wedding at all (for those reasons), but I’ll have to eventually because I’ll be out a few days. This is the conversation I’m envisioning:
Me: “BTW, I’m going to be out Thursday-Tuesday.”
Coworker: “Oh really, are you going somewhere?
Me: “No just getting married. See ya Wednesday!” (We do plan a big honeymoon, but likely not until fall. Don’t give me opinions on when honeymoons are supposed to be, I get to choose!)
Don’t get me wrong — I am super excited to get married. I’m incredibly excited for our small, low-key and beautiful wedding we have planned here. The vows, the ceremony, the dinner, and everything. I’m excited for the pictures and to wear my dress and eat cake. I’m super excited for the reception in the midwest — who cares if I don’t know many people? I just don’t like all the wedding hype.
BTW, this is not a budget wedding, not really. I don’t consider $14k-$15k “budget”, though some crazies might. I must admit we saved mostly by using a restaurant rather than an official venue. I originally didn’t think it was a big deal not to have a dance, but some people (not me) seem to think it isn’t a wedding without dancing. I personally prefer chatting to dancing, but I didn’t realize this was sort of uncommon. So, some people may be disappointed, but I think most will be accepting. And if they aren’t, screw them.
I just hate that when you say “wedding” people get ideas in their head, and I don’t like having to explain and justify my choices.
But I will blog about them if anyone has questions. 🙂