Paying a preimum to avoid stress
T and I agreed that we’re paying a premium for the privileged of not spending as much time on our wedding planning. We’re both ok with that. I’m continually amazed at the creativity and bargains of some brides who have wedding blogs, but I’m just not in that world.
I did a lot of research of venues, but we only physically met with one for the ceremony, one for the reception. I spent one day wedding dress shopping. I tried on 3 veils and settled for shoes I don’t love. I met with one photographer, one cake person.
I did do my homework, found reviews, and checked the prices of many places. But our method is this: Once someone has made it to the physical meeting stage, all they had to do was not be (much) more expensive than I expected, have a good personality, and live up to the research.
My photographer was easygoing, outgoing, and made us laugh. The pictures were great. The price was right. Booked him. The cake is ~$125 more than my projections, but the cake was great and I don’t want to see if I can do better. Booked her on the spot. The reception dinner lady was kind of flaky, but I think she’ll get the job done. Booked anyway.
I should have met with many photographers (venues/cake people/florists) and picked the one we liked best for the best price. All the advice I read suggested this, complete with lists of questions to ask. We just couldn’t bring ourselves to do this.
I can’t put a dollar amount on the premium we are paying by not doing complete research, but I bet it is at least $500. Or more, who knows? On one hand, I think this is really stupid of us. On the other hand, I can’t bring myself to make the other decision, so we’ll pay the premium and enjoy the wedding, as well as the months leading up to it. This is not personal finance advice, it is just our personal finance decision.
Married and engaged readers, did you meet with many vendors? Did you ever pay extra just because you didn’t want to deal with trying to find a bargain? Do you think we’re nuts for just paying more?