Why I spent $900 on a dress I’ll wear twice: you tell me!
Two big wedding expenses, both which could have been greatly reduced, are as follows:
Dress: I wanted a “real” wedding dress. But I didn’t think I did! I envisioned a more beachy white dress — simple, beautiful, maybe not full length. Certainly not a WEDDING dress. But when I tried on dresses, the nontraditional felt wrong for me. I didn’t like them at all. So we got the one I wanted — no details since T reads this. It isn’t a giant giant white dress, but it is most certainly a wedding dress. It was $900 (no tax).
BTW – the wedding isn’t on the beach exactly, so a real dress will be v. appropriate.
Jewels: T bought me a beautiful diamond solitaire engagement ring, and it was… I don’t know, $6000 or something. We just got a custom wedding band made, and that was another $1500. It is gorgeous! (FYI, the main reason it is custom is that my setting requires a very slight curve in the band to fit together nicely, and custom was cheaper than the brand name matching band.)
These are certainly things we could afford without debt. But . . .
On many levels I think it is crazy to spend $900 on a dress I will wear TWICE (I get to wear it again in the midwest reception!!), and $7,500 on completely non functional rocks (though that has a much better cost per a wear). But I did it anyway. And I did it not because society forced me to, but because it is what we chose, what we wanted. Part of me wished I didn’t want the engagement ring — but in my heart, I did want it! In my heart, I’m glad he got it! And I’m glad I got the dress I got, happy we got a good photographer and I’m happy the setting will be gorgeous.
But I also think it is a bit crazy. It would be nice if this post could come to some sort of succinct conclusion — but I don’t know what that conclusion is! So can you help me?
So far the best answer I have is: Because it is what we wanted, and we could do it without struggling.