Please don’t tell me how much I’m saving on my wedding
[Also, please don’t tell me how much YOU saved on YOUR wedding.]
I didn’t feel like I could talk about my February finances without clearing the air. We are spending money on our wedding. Not tons of money. We aren’t having a lavish ball. But more than I am used to on tons of things and it makes me feel like if I post about it, people will tell me that is an irresponsible use of money. If I don’t post about it, I feel like I’m hiding it!
I also hate when people cheerfully comment on how much we are saving by having a small wedding (only one person did this). My eyes bugged out and I thought to myself: “Saving?!? We are spending nearly $15k, about half of that out of our own pockets!!” Nothing about our wedding feels frugal or like saving.
The truth is, if we would have just got married in the Midwest, we could have spent the same and had a big wedding with pretty much all the fixings. Sometimes I wonder if we should have. Just maybe, had all the expectations been clear up front, we would have. But I have to push that thought out of my mind, because it is too late, we are doing what we are doing, and it is going to be fabulous.
Now that we have that out of the way…. expect more personal finance chatter soon!