Links and thoughts from SP
Being a realist should mean having hope, not being pessimistic. My new response to “I guess I’m just a realist” is going to be “I guess I’ve discovered that a positive attitude, a generous posture and a bit of persistence makes things better than most people expect.”
Speaking of space, I’m intriguged about NASA’s announcement that they solved an open mystery on Mars, and I’m excited to hear what it is. And the images of Pluto from New Horizons are stunning. And there is a supermoon lunar eclipse this weekend!
Hey, remember how I got a car, brand-new, in 2011? We were devastated to hear the news that we didn’t get what we paid for, and are awaiting the fallout. It is likely the car will be recalled and updated to meet standards (impacting performance), and some sort of compensation will be due.
I had a chat with my manager the other day, and we jointly discovered that I was not eligible for this year’s pay increase cycle since I started 1 week after the cutoff date. I was expecting as much. He then said, “Well, you negotiated quite well when you started, so it isn’t likely there would have been much increase anyway.” I smiled. I know I’m making more than a lot of long-time employees, and I’m almost certainly the highest paid person with my title right now. I knew raises would be hard to get, so I asked for every single penny (even though I had expected the offer to be 15-20% lower than it was). So, negotiate hard (H/T Spend, Save, Splurge). It is the only time you have all the power.
It is bad enough that women actresses get asked inane questions about balancing work with kids when men with children don’t. But at a tech conference, it is shocking that one of Silicon Valley’s most powerful women was asked if all her children had the same father. I expect better than “grandstanding dog and pony shows, designed to trot out successful women and demean them by asking them, “How do you do it all?” as if they are crazy for pursuing their careers as their male cohorts would.” Cringing. Why is Gayle King the moderator???
I almost never share anything serious on my Facebook, but I shared to a post about one father’s plan to set up a fund for his daughter and not his son in an effort to combat unequal pay. The first comment was from a guy who said the pay gap exits but was overstated and largely due a lot to women having children (which the article discusses in detail, but I doubt he read it). OK, thanks for the man-splanation!!! (I wish I said that. I really said that the article talked about that, and that the birth itself is only 3-4 months off work thanks to our terrible maternity policies, and it is impossible to separate “lifestyle choices” from societal pressures and expectations that the woman is the primary caregiver, career or not. Now I remember why I don’t share things on Facebook.
And now, another photo of my dog, all tuckered out after our backpacking trip earlier this month.