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Parenthood: 9 months (8 months too)

July 31, 2019

I’ve decided to refer to baby as LO (for “Little One”) on the blog, so I can stop just referring to her as “she” and “her”.

Routines & Sleep

During our trip to Colorado (~8 months), T switched LOs schedule from three to two naps each day.  The third nap had been getting near impossible, and the second nap was always short.  Now, her naps are typically around 9 and 2/3.  I’d like to scoot that second nap firmly to 2 pm to enable an easier bedtime, but I’m not really in charge of her daily schedule.  These naps are now consistently 1.5 – 2 hours.  Bedtime is 7:30 – 8, but sometimes slips later if the last nap stretched on to 5.  She wakes up between 6:30 and 7:30 most mornings, with our ideal wake up time of 7.  Her nanny share naps have improved with an additional curtain added for darkness.

Night sleep is mostly unchanged, with one overnight wake up that I’ve put no effort into phasing out.

Childcare

The older child in her current nanny share starting is starting pre-school, so we’ve decided to enroll LO in daycare starting in August.  (The other option was to begin a nanny share with a new family.)

Our motivations are many.  In particular, I’m looking forward to the structure and social aspects. The environment has many age appropriate developmental toys, and I was impressed with the training the teachers have. Two of the four teachers in the room have been with the daycare over 15 years.  I like the licensing and accountability of a center, and the lack of “baby containers”. We can stay with this daycare until LO is ready for kindergarden.  The inevitable germs/sickness is the major downside, but it will happen at some point in her life. I also expect her naps to be worse.

On the parent side:  We’ll save a modest amount of money, but will greatly complicate commutes.  This will mostly impact T due to our work locations, but I’ll share the burden.  We’ll attempt to make it work with the single car, but may be prompted to buy a second.  We’re considering hiring a neighbor for regular mid-day dog walking 3+ days a week.  In the past, I’ve done this every day, but I’ll no longer have a car at work that enables me to zip home quickly.  (While I’ve been pumping, T has covered lunch walks.) We’re considering staggered schedules and skipping the dog’s mid-day walk, but I can’t figure out how to make this tractable. While I’m confident the dog could physically tolerate it, I don’t feel comfortable leaving him home with no walks for 8+ hours. We can’t do a doggy door situation for a variety of reasons.  So… we’ll see.

Eating

Real people food is going slowly. We’re mostly doing purees. I make some purees at home to reduce cost and to give her non-gross meat purees, but we rely on pouches/jars heavily.  I don’t have time to make sufficient variety in homemade purees to forgo buying more.  As LOs appetite increases, we’re trying to introduce more table foods (prepared appropriately for someone with 4 teeth), but self-feeding is slow going.  LO is still nursing three times a day (at wake up, before bed, and once overnight), with 3 bottles during the work day.  She eats 3 “meals” of solids about an hour after her bottle.

Pumping is going okay, but I’m ready to ramp that down and start digging into the hundred of ounces I have in my freezer stash, and also begin formula.  We made it to 9 months without needing formula, but the effort to get enough milk for her is increasing.  Daycare provides formula as part of the price, so adding formula will be less of a financial burden.  I hope to continue nursing in the mornings/evenings, but I may not be able to produce enough to make that work.  Nursing itself is going fine, although daytime nursing on the weekends is hard due to distraction.

Personality / Milestones

She is mobile!  She spent the month army crawling, getting faster and stronger each day.  Just recently, she started getting into a sitting position herself and properly crawling short distances.  There still is a fair amount of face planting, but she’s getting better each day.  She’s not pulling up yet, but I don’t expect it to be long.  It moves really fast.

She’s babbling with consonant sounds! One day she woke up and started saying “dada” all day long.  She doesn’t seem to have any words that she understands the meaning of.  We’re working on waving, high fives, and “so big!” but she hasn’t really figured those out yet. My assessment is she’s a little behind average on communication/social milestones, but nothing outside of a “normal” range – especially considering she was about 3 weeks early.  She’s average to ahead-of-average on gross motor skills.

She weighed in at 16.5 pounds at her 9 month appointment, putting her safely in the 25% range.  She was 0.1% at birth, so I’m happy to see her growing normally!

Toys she’s enjoyed: bright woven rattle, a little drum (also just eating the drumstick), her stacking cups, indestructible book (to eat), a teething cookie, play scarfs over her head, and anything that is not a toy that she can get her hands on (phones, remotes, etc.)

She’s an easygoing and happy baby most of the time. When she is fussy, she’ll calm down for a stroller ride and chill out.  She always wants to be on the floor practicing her crawling. She’s exhibited some signs of separation anxiety, but not too much.

Money

No major purchases this month, and nothing of note to say here!

Co-parenting

We’re still at status quo here.  T went out of town for a week, but my parents came to town to help, and 3-4 adults to one baby seems like lovely ratio.

The mental load is seems to be falling on me a bit more. For example, T keeps looking to me to figure out what she should be eating, and I don’t have access to any secret baby food information.  On the other hand, T took care of the copious amounts of daycare paperwork, which was fantastic and a burden that I didn’t have to take on.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. July 31, 2019 11:58 am

    ” 3-4 adults to one baby seems like lovely ratio” — IT IS.

    Also, yes, my partner does look to me to ask me about certain things about Little Bun but I too, have no secret information. In fact, him doing it so early on in our Baby Bun experience, really put a lot of pressure and stress on me..

    Things are a lot better now that Little Bun is 5 and can communicate.

  2. August 23, 2019 3:34 pm

    3-4 adults to one baby is always a great ratio. When we traveled more, we would visit friends with one small kid and outings were pretty perfect. Way easier to both manage the kiddo and still socialize!

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